My boyfriend thinks I’m ‘stubborn’ for breaking up with him for a ‘crazy’ reason – but I know I’m right

A woman has been called crazy and stubborn after breaking up with her long-term boyfriend when he bought a puppy against her wishes.

The 24-year-old woman and her boyfriend of almost five years, who is also 24, moved in together in May.

She openly admits to not liking dogs and ‘not understanding the hype’, where he loves them, especially pugs.

So, she knew one day they would have to have a hard conversation about adding a four-legged friend to the family.

A month ago that happened.

She wrote on Reddit that she explained to her boyfriend she isn’t ready for a dog but could be persuaded to get one one day – but probably not a pug.

She said she really doesn’t find them cute. He grew up with them and is obsessed.

Since the conversation her partner has kept sending her photos of pugs for sale but she has ignored them.

‘Then, last Monday, he tells me he set up a visit with a breeder to look at pugs on Friday. I start bawling my eyes out because I do not want a dog right now,’ she said.

‘I make it clear I’m not ready for this and I don’t want a dog right now. I am thinking maybe he will just go and look – I look him dead in the eyes and say please do not buy one, I’m not okay with this,’ she added.

And she didn’t think he would.

Then a puppy fence appeared in her house and he asked her for help moving things around ‘to make room for the puppy’.

‘I thought he was kidding until I kept questioning it more and figured out he’s not. I broke down in tears in front of my entire family. At this point, I’m also upset about the fact that he didn’t tell me for an entire day, didn’t respect me saying I wasn’t ready,’ she said.

She broke up with him over the issue and he called her ‘irrational’ and unfair for not giving the dog a chance.

‘His entire family thinks I’m being stubborn and crazy,’ she said.

But the people of Reddit had her back.

‘It is absolutely worth breaking up over, and I say this as a dog person. A dog is a major commitment and you should both be enthusiastic about getting one. The issue here is that you could not have been clearer and he is completely railroading you,’ one woman said.

‘It’s also OK for this to be a deal breaker. If my boyfriend didn’t want a dog, I’d get a dog and a new boyfriend,’ another woman added. 

‘Replace the word with baby and hopefully everyone will see the issue. He is in the wrong,’ another said. 

‘If his whole family thinks she’s being irrational and crazy, I see where he gets it from,’ another added. 

The woman had told her boyfriend she might get a dog one day but never a pug

Others warned her against patching things up with her former boyfriend.

‘Power play here. Be prepared for lots more. If you are going to make a move, this is the time. He has showed you who he is,’ one woman said. 

‘Forget the dog – you said you weren’t comfortable with something and he did it anyway. Then he called you crazy for being upset over it. He could be dangerous,’ another said. 

‘You’re only 24! This is the stage where you figure out what the adult-you wants out of life. What are your values, goals etc. This is also where you figure out what you’re looking for in a life partner and this guy ain’t it,’ suggested another.

Others suggested it is the boyfriend who is delusional for wanting a pug in the first place. 

‘I don’t think he’s ready for the expense either – so now add money problems. If he needs to ‘save up for a pen’, which is like $50? How is he going to afford a pug which is VERY likely to need vet visits and surgeries and special diets and shampoos because even when they’re well bred they’re poorly bred,’ one woman said.

Others revealed they have been in the same position.

‘My mum wanted a dog, my dad didn’t. she got it anyway and it has put both my dad and I in hospital on separate occasions years apart,’ one young woman said. 

‘I was in your position. My fiance wanted a dog. We lived together and I already had a dog and she had a cat and fish. I was adamant that I did not want to bring another pet into the mix. She promised me that her kids would take care of the dog. I didn’t believe her and still said no. 

‘She showed up at home with a dog. I was furious. She claimed everything would be fine because she was sending it to a fancy one month obedience camp. We’ll guess what. When the dog got back, no one kept up with the training and the dog was a hyperactive nightmare,’ said another.

They ended up leaving their partner and her kids over it .

The young woman said her family are backing her and are confused about why someone would get a dog without their partner’s approval.