An Australian relationship expert has revealed a lesser-known trick which she claims makes you instantly more attractive.
Louanne Ward, a qualified matchmaker and coach from Perth, Western Australia, claims the ‘AT20 Eye Contact Rule’ (Around-the-Target 20 per cent) will make you ‘ten times more attractive’ in conversations.
She said you should maintain direct eye contact for 20 per cent of the conversation then subtly shift your gaze around the rest of the face.
‘If you stare too much, it can feel intense, creepy, or confrontational. If you avoid eye contact, you come across as nervous, uninterested, or lacking confidence,’ Louanne explained on Instagram.
‘But when you balance eye contact with subtle shifts – to their lips, cheekbones, or forehead – it creates a sense of natural intrigue and chemistry.
‘Most people don’t realise how small shifts in body language can completely change how they’re perceived. If you want to create effortless chemistry and attraction in real-life interactions.’
Louanne said the tactic is ‘backed by psychology’ and works by ‘creating mystery’, ‘mimicking romantic subconscious cues’ and ‘feeling natural’.
‘Slightly breaking eye contact at key moments makes them want to pull you back in,’ she wrote.
Louanne Ward , a qualified matchmaker and coach from Perth , Western Australia , claims the ‘AT20 Eye Contact Rule’ will make you ‘ten times more attractive’ in conversations
To use the tactic on a date, be sure to only hold direct eye contact for 20 per cent of the time.
For the other 80 per cent, allow your gaze to naturally shift around the face – and avoid quick movements or robotic staring.
Next, when looking away do so slowly and naturally. When returning to direct eye contact, Louanne advised to ‘mix in a brief smile or smirk’ to re-establish connection.
‘The Result? They’ll feel an undeniable pull toward you – without even realising why,’ she claimed.
Last month Louanne shared the trick she claims makes you instantly more attractive – and it takes just three seconds.
Louanne claims many are ‘killing their own attraction powers without even realising it’.
‘They’re rushing conversation to fill silence and thinking more about what they want to say next rather than listening,’ she said.
‘There’s also lots of fast movements and fidgeting.
‘These simple things added up are attraction blockers.’
Louanne said her three-second ‘pause and hold technique’ will ensure those you meet see you as more attractive, charismatic and memorable than they would have otherwise.
She explained how you should maintain direct eye contact for 20 per cent of the conversation then subtly shift your gaze around the rest of the face
It works like this:
1. When you enter a room, meet someone new, or start speaking, pause for three seconds.
2. Hold eye contact before looking away.
3. Pause before responding to a question.
4.Let a moment breathe instead of rushing to fill it.
This science-backed method works in multiple ways. The first being that pausing shows confidence.
‘People who rush seem nervous. A slight pause signals certainty,’ Louanne said.
Holding eye contact also builds connection – just two to three seconds can ensure someone feels an instant pull toward you.
‘It makes people lean in,’ Louanne continued.
‘When you don’t rush, your words carry more weight.’
Louanne said her three-second ‘pause and hold technique’ will ensure those you meet see you as more attractive, charismatic and memorable than they would have otherwise
Louanne, who has had more than two decades of experience in the industry, said most people don’t use this method because ‘silence feels uncomfortable’.
‘But the moment you learn to own it, you change the way people see you forever,’ she said.
‘And this is just one small piece of what makes attraction effortless.’
Louanne has launched a new Dating Lounge in a bid to teach methods like these, along with tried and tested tips for forming deep, natural connections without swiping endlessly or chasing people who don’t see your value.
You can find the link to it in the bullet points.
